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must see this week #3: the many personas of working mothers

Apologies, readers.  I meant to publish this days ago, but I got hit with a really terrible case of good ol’ Influenza and I’ve been in bed for four days.   Enjoy this next recommendation.   Working Mothers by photographer Alice Proujansky http://aliceproujansky.com/a/working-mothers/   While looking something up at work, I stumbled upon a photography project that blew me away and touched me so much that it made me choke up.  Alice Proujansky has an ongoing project on her site called “Working Mothers.”  Without words, it shows just how many personas are wrapped up into one working mother.  Working mothers have to be powerful and articulate enough to present in meetings, yet flip the switch at any given moment and kiss boo boos, clean vomit, nurse fevers, and buy diapers.  They have to maintain an air of professionalism yet also dash away to private places to hook pumps up to their breasts to nourish their babies. I struggle every single day with trying to understand how a full-time working mother could ever find balance.  I think about …

must read this week #2: growth and development are not a race

11 Things I Wish Every Parent Knew by Dr. Stephen Cowan on MindBodyGreen.com http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-10250/11-things-i-wish-every-parent-knew.htmlIn such a busy, rushed culture, I often hear things like “I can’t wait until this stage is over,” or “When will he/she sleep through the night?”  These are very normal things for parents to say because child rearing is freaking hard. We’re also programmed to praise all things early: early walkers, early talkers,  early potty users, etc. and we all know those weird parents that like to make things competitive for some reason.  Social media can add to the “race” if you let it in.  In 11 Things I Wish Every Parent Knew by Dr. Stephen Cowan, #1 on this list is “Growth and development are not a race.”   In a world that is so go-go-go, cherishing the development of our babies is one thing that should be savored, I think.  Every person is different and every baby is different in terms of development.  Anderson started counting fairly early and I’m really proud of him, but I’m pretty sure that doesn’t necessarily …

words

How is it possible that this little being… now says stuff?  Like, real words?  When did he go from baby to little boy? I’m siiicckkk.  Bleh.  I have a terrible summer cold and battled a wretched fever last night that had me wishing for death.  I’ve been cranky and unbearable.  My poor husband hid from me yesterday.  I couldn’t even stand myself.  Then, today, my baby boy kept yelling for bubbles, which pulled me out of my misery.  Not just bubbo.  He accentuated the s at the end.  Let me tell you, I blew as many bubbleS as I could. Here is a self-indulgent post for you:  a list of the words that are coming out of his little teething mouth everyday–because I don’t want to forget this stage of complete wonder.  We can see his wheels turning constantly as he tries something new and as he figures things out.  He is a daring one, this child, and oh so curious.  He doesn’t understand what embarrassment is yet.  He shamelessly gets excited when he is …

12 things I never thought I’d do before becoming a mom

We buried my sweet, lively grandmother this past weekend.  She left us in December and we were finally able to have closure on Saturday, though I miss her an awful lot.  Here she is in 1954 when my father was just an infant. I wasn’t able to say Happy Mother’s Day to you all because things were so hectic.  So, to lighten things up a bit, I’d like to share with you some of the crazy, funny things I simply never could have known I’d ever do. Pick undigested grape skins out of the washer after washing diapers. Do a full song and dance routine when a certain little dude doesn’t want to eat dinner. Make loud razz/fart noises with my mouth/hand merely because it makes my child laugh. While out for a jog with the stroller, actually run HARDER because the jiggling/speed makes him laugh.  Normally I’d, uh, probably stop running if people were laughing at me. Memorize a full library of children’s books to use when needed (fussy car rides or full blown …

raising a child in this crazy, beautiful world

Before our babies are born, we agonize over what to eat and what not to eat.  We spend days pondering over what crib is safest and what kind of swaddle will prevent SIDS.  We then feed our children pesticide-free food and surround them with things labeled “organic” because we only want the best for them.  We spend the majority of our time making sure our children are safe in the car, at daycare, at school, in our homes with high end car seats and well-researched schools and gates to keep them away from stairs. These  pure little beings are our world and they depend on us to protect them. All we want is create a beautiful life for our families in this usually beautiful world. The  Sandy Hook parents sent their children to school in December last year in mittens and hats to keep them warm.  They fed them breakfast and packed lunches for them.  They made sure they got enough sleep the night before.  Yet, they couldn’t keep their babies safe. The day of …

change is good

A close friend sent me this text message recently and it brought tears to my eyes. I have always loved you sweet friend, but I like this Cara who is slowed down.  Your job was killing you.  It’s so nice to see you in this space. I haven’t yet mentioned a huge change in my life that took place two months ago. After nearly nine years of blood, sweat, and tears at my last job, I decided to leave.  2012 was a dramatic year for me in terms of my career.   I left for my maternity leave extremely stressed and unhappy at one company, working 10-12 hour days preparing the division I managed for an acquisition.  I returned from maternity leave to a brand new company that provided a much happier, healthier experience.  Returning from maternity leave is, however, an emotional and tumultuous experience in itself and probably one of the most stressful things a new mom can go through.  One day, you are a full time mom with the important job of caring …

a blissful blizzard weekend and a random act of mom kindness

Author’s note: I’ve decided to cancel 1veggiemom. Why?  Let’s face it, parenting is a huge part of who I am now and I was silly to think that I could work full time, be a mom, and have TWO blogs!  I’m moving the 1veggiemom posts here.  I’ll only add a maximum of one post over per day so that you are not bombarded with 1 veggie emails!  With every flake of snow that came down, we three got more and more excited as Nemo hit New England. Something about the promise of getting snowed in makes me feel like a child. No school! No work! Playtime! Sleeping in! Hot cocoa! What a lovely extended weekend it was. We woke up Saturday to a blanket (or a thick comforter, really) of untouched white. Then, the neighbors all started to peek out, wearing bulky coats and carrying shovels, chatting about the snow while trying to get snow blowers started up. I grew up in a rural location, so this idea of a neighborhood is something I don’t take for …

making baby food using dried apricot

Apricots are so good for your baby. They contain Vitamin C and Vitamin A. They also have some iron and lots of fiber among other great nutrients. Did you know that your baby’s store of iron that he or she got from you while in the womb is depleted around 6 months? If you are giving your baby iron fortified formula, then you need not worry. If you are solely breastfeeding, you need to really pay attention to the amount of iron your baby gets from 6 months and on. Apricots also taste really good. I haven’t been able to get my hands on fresh apricots, so I’ve been using dried for baby food. Here is one important thing if you use dried apricots: make sure they do not contain sulfites. If they are bright orange, they likely do. Aim to find the brownish looking ones. I wanted to add a little extra veg in there, so I added spinach (plus spinach has iron). I also had three lovely organic apples that I wanted to …

what’s in a baby name?

Baby Center recently sent out the “Popular Baby Names in 2013.” Liam and Sophia sit at #1. I actually have mom friends with children named Liam and Sophia and they are both lovely names. It got me thinking about my child’s name and how it came to be. Anderson Douglas St.Hilaire It is a long name for a little man, but I love it. I wasn’t always confidant about it, however. Growing up, I didn’t meet another Cara until I was in high school. Cara was always a “weird” name among the many Jennifers and Christines and Amys. Actually, the #1 baby name of 1979 was indeed Jennifer according tothis. Michael was the #1 for boys. I kindof always liked that Cara was different. Nobody confused me. Nobody had to add the initial in my last name to be sure I was the right Cara. I didn’t have to rename myself Jen or Chris or Mike to distinguish myself from the others that share my name. There was no grand plan behind my name. My father found …

nursery tour and things for baby registry

I have several expecting friends and I’ve been asked to give thoughts on baby registry items a few times lately.  These friends have inspired me to give you a visual tour of one of the most precious rooms in my home.  This post is dedicated to nursery and bath.  I’ll write about other items later. A few things to keep in mind.  First, I’m a pretty much a minimalist and my style is pretty wabi-sabi (click here for more about what wabi-sabi means).  Second, our nursery is small, so we don’t have a lot of room for extra stuff.  Finally, your needs are all going to be different and the opinions and suggestions here are my own.  There is no judgement if you want to go all out with fancy crib bumpers (breathable!) matching curtains.  You may want a co-sleeper or you may want a high end video monitor.  These are things we didn’t opt for. Anderson’s room is my favorite room in the house, largely due to emotional attachment I’m sure.  I’ve been looking forward to …